Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Where To Meet Otaku Girls
One such search phrase was so overwhelmingly specific and so abundantly otaku, that I just couldn't resist writing an article about it. So who ever you were that entered in that search term, this blog post is for you!
So if one is a fellow male anime and manga nerd, or a hard-core otaku--I use that term loosely here--where, and how does one go about finding, or meeting a member of the opposite sex? The truth is that, it is not easy.
What I'm going to present here is a close look at the other "dark side of the otaku fandom".
Now then, lets assume that as a fan of anime and manga one automatically falls into something similar to the famous video gamer curse; that phenomenon that is rarely overcome in the life of the average gamer that mandates he will be single and mate-less for as long as said gamer is a gamer.
If we assume that being a member of the otaku fandom is similar, then we have to assume that as long as a fan of anime and manga is a fan, then it seems pretty clear from casual observations that the otaku will be single.
This is all speculation mind you, there is no absolute fact regarding whether or not a person will be stuck in the mode of a single existence for the rest of their life; but it won't be an easy road to romantic success.
The question: "Where To Meet Otaku Girls" is a tough one since it's multi-faceted and not something that one can simply point in a direction and say, "Why, right over there of course."
We already know what it is that separates the sexes, but when it comes to nerds, the dividing line becomes way more refined. Since nerds usually only care about their nerdish habits more than they actually care about procreation of the species (well the girls at least, the guys are still horny, and likely to dry hump a dish-towel if it has a cute face drawn on it).
Otaku by habit are anti-sociable creatures, save for their meager anime clubs, and those few times a year when they brave the fjords of society and mingle with thousands of their kind at conventions--lost in the nameless sea of faces and such.
Some otaku are still in the shadow with regards to their fandom, and therefore are not likely to draw any unwanted attention to their habits, therefore don't go around shouting in a megaphone that they are an anime and manga nerd.
Then it's been my fortune to encounter several otaku girls that want nothing to do with otaku boys, and choose instead to fall into the loving embrace of a fellow female nerd. In fact, of the hand-full of female otaku that I actually know, more than half are lesbian. So the odds are greatly stacked against the male nerd looking for a relationship.
The biggest problem with a question about where to find otaku girls, is that most of the boys that are looking have two things monumentally against them right away. First, they are probably just out of their puberty years, and have raging hormones that their parents really need to try and better explain. And two, most likely because they are anime and manga nerds, they have a fucked up sense of what a girl is supposed to be like.
I'm gonna let you in on a secret here; anime girls are NOT ANYTHING like a real girl. Real girls probably won't call you Onii-chan, they will not want to make you your stinking lunch in a bento, they get hostile when you classify them, and they probably will not match anywhere near--and I mean within this galactic neighborhood near--to the image of that cute high school girl that you wank to every night.
As long as you--an otaku male--continue to objectify and classify the opposite sex, then you fail before you even start. Girls are not objects, they are not fetishes, they are not a nice ass in a short skirt, they are not a "B", a "C", or a "D" cup. They are not your fantasy, your wet-dreams, or a substitute for lonely night when your friends don't feel like playing World of Warcraft. Girls are flesh and blood free-thinking individuals, they will do any and everything contrary to what you imagine them to do, and they will do it with such a grace and finesse that you will be stunned into silence when you see it.
Now, chances are you imagine you are some sort of singular case here, that you are alone and no one else in the world could possibly have it as hard as you, and you are an idiot for thinking that. Really, you are a huge dynamic moron! Don't think that just because you got a little tingle in your testicles because of some hormones and you finally discovered that girls are a good thing, that you are by yourself in your affliction.
Every male goes through this, it's just life. But with life comes some maturity that you as a human being have to undergo first. See, chances are if you are under the age of 18 or 20, then you are not mentally ready for a relationship, since you are under the impression that a quick screw will cure your blues, and your balls. Little do you know, that those girls are already past that, and aren't looking for a sack of testicles and a engorged penis to fill their lives. They are looking for a man, a fellow companion, and a potential mate. Regardless of whether or not they are an otaku, a gamer nerd, or just a girl in class that always chews the end of her pencil.
Chances are if you are an otaku that is single, you are going to read this and think, "Horse-shit! It's impossible!" and you are 100% right. For you, it is impossible, because you are still looking at girls as an object of your unbridled lust, and as an outlet for your ejaculate. Hey, I'm not trying to rattle any cages, I'm giving this to you as straight as possible.
If you want to meet an otaku girl, then you first have to go where they go, you have to be open and available, you have to be willing to be their friend--even if it means you NEVER get to fuck their holes silly--and you have to stop thinking like a dumb-ass!
Some of you are probably children of the internet age, and think that you can find romance by means of the keyboard, and while you can... you have to be prepared for a longer road to acceptance, and commitment, a longer path to trust and love.
If you want to meet otaku girls, then get out of your house, go to the anime store, go to the arcade, go hang out with otaku friends, explore internet message boards, and be yourself. be their friend, be their confidant, and put your penis back in your pants long enough to understand that any sort of lasting relationship will NEVER EVER EVER crank up after just one private chat, or a voice chat, or a video chat.
You yourself are your biggest set-back to finding happiness, and it's up to you to change your own world.
Before you leave this site after reading this, and if you've managed to read this far, then let me greatly encourage you. I speak from personal experience here when I say that time and patience are always on your side. The faster you try to make things happen, the slower time crawls on you, and when you take things slow; then more good things will happen.
How do I know these things?
Well, as a fellow gamer/anime/manga/film nerd... I know these things, because I've been engaged to my fiance for 4 months as of two days ago, and will be married in less than a year; and wouldn't you know it, can you believe it; she's just as much of an anime and manga and video gamer nerd as I am.
I have faith in you to be the best person you can be, and I have confidence that you can do more than just find a girl. If you are willing to work harder at making her happy--harder than finding all the volumes of an out of print manga--then you will be just fine.