Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Where To Meet Otaku Girls

So I was checking out the statistics here on Western Otaku, and came across something very fascinating. It seems that there have been some pretty specific searches that have--against all odds--lead some visitors to this site.

One such search phrase was so overwhelmingly specific and so abundantly otaku, that I just couldn't resist writing an article about it. So who ever you were that entered in that search term, this blog post is for you!
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So if one is a fellow male anime and manga nerd, or a hard-core otaku--I use that term loosely here--where, and how does one go about finding, or meeting a member of the opposite sex? The truth is that, it is not easy.

What I'm going to present here is a close look at the other "dark side of the otaku fandom".

Now then, lets assume that as a fan of anime and manga one automatically falls into something similar to the famous video gamer curse; that phenomenon that is rarely overcome in the life of the average gamer that mandates he will be single and mate-less for as long as said gamer is a gamer.

If we assume that being a member of the otaku fandom is similar, then we have to assume that as long as a fan of anime and manga is a fan, then it seems pretty clear from casual observations that the otaku will be single.

This is all speculation mind you, there is no absolute fact regarding whether or not a person will be stuck in the mode of a single existence for the rest of their life; but it won't be an easy road to romantic success.

The question: "Where To Meet Otaku Girls" is a tough one since it's multi-faceted and not something that one can simply point in a direction and say, "Why, right over there of course."

We already know what it is that separates the sexes, but when it comes to nerds, the dividing line becomes way more refined. Since nerds usually only care about their nerdish habits more than they actually care about procreation of the species (well the girls at least, the guys are still horny, and likely to dry hump a dish-towel if it has a cute face drawn on it).

Otaku by habit are anti-sociable creatures, save for their meager anime clubs, and those few times a year when they brave the fjords of society and mingle with thousands of their kind at conventions--lost in the nameless sea of faces and such.

Some otaku are still in the shadow with regards to their fandom, and therefore are not likely to draw any unwanted attention to their habits, therefore don't go around shouting in a megaphone that they are an anime and manga nerd.

Then it's been my fortune to encounter several otaku girls that want nothing to do with otaku boys, and choose instead to fall into the loving embrace of a fellow female nerd. In fact, of the hand-full of female otaku that I actually know, more than half are lesbian. So the odds are greatly stacked against the male nerd looking for a relationship.

The biggest problem with a question about where to find otaku girls, is that most of the boys that are looking have two things monumentally against them right away. First, they are probably just out of their puberty years, and have raging hormones that their parents really need to try and better explain. And two, most likely because they are anime and manga nerds, they have a fucked up sense of what a girl is supposed to be like.

I'm gonna let you in on a secret here; anime girls are NOT ANYTHING like a real girl. Real girls probably won't call you Onii-chan, they will not want to make you your stinking lunch in a bento, they get hostile when you classify them, and they probably will not match anywhere near--and I mean within this galactic neighborhood near--to the image of that cute high school girl that you wank to every night.

As long as you--an otaku male--continue to objectify and classify the opposite sex, then you fail before you even start. Girls are not objects, they are not fetishes, they are not a nice ass in a short skirt, they are not a "B", a "C", or a "D" cup. They are not your fantasy, your wet-dreams, or a substitute for lonely night when your friends don't feel like playing World of Warcraft. Girls are flesh and blood free-thinking individuals, they will do any and everything contrary to what you imagine them to do, and they will do it with such a grace and finesse that you will be stunned into silence when you see it.

Now, chances are you imagine you are some sort of singular case here, that you are alone and no one else in the world could possibly have it as hard as you, and you are an idiot for thinking that. Really, you are a huge dynamic moron! Don't think that just because you got a little tingle in your testicles because of some hormones and you finally discovered that girls are a good thing, that you are by yourself in your affliction.

Every male goes through this, it's just life. But with life comes some maturity that you as a human being have to undergo first. See, chances are if you are under the age of 18 or 20, then you are not mentally ready for a relationship, since you are under the impression that a quick screw will cure your blues, and your balls. Little do you know, that those girls are already past that, and aren't looking for a sack of testicles and a engorged penis to fill their lives. They are looking for a man, a fellow companion, and a potential mate. Regardless of whether or not they are an otaku, a gamer nerd, or just a girl in class that always chews the end of her pencil.

Chances are if you are an otaku that is single, you are going to read this and think, "Horse-shit! It's impossible!" and you are 100% right. For you, it is impossible, because you are still looking at girls as an object of your unbridled lust, and as an outlet for your ejaculate. Hey, I'm not trying to rattle any cages, I'm giving this to you as straight as possible.

If you want to meet an otaku girl, then you first have to go where they go, you have to be open and available, you have to be willing to be their friend--even if it means you NEVER get to fuck their holes silly--and you have to stop thinking like a dumb-ass!

Some of you are probably children of the internet age, and think that you can find romance by means of the keyboard, and while you can... you have to be prepared for a longer road to acceptance, and commitment, a longer path to trust and love.

If you want to meet otaku girls, then get out of your house, go to the anime store, go to the arcade, go hang out with otaku friends, explore internet message boards, and be yourself. be their friend, be their confidant, and put your penis back in your pants long enough to understand that any sort of lasting relationship will NEVER EVER EVER crank up after just one private chat, or a voice chat, or a video chat.

You yourself are your biggest set-back to finding happiness, and it's up to you to change your own world.

Before you leave this site after reading this, and if you've managed to read this far, then let me greatly encourage you. I speak from personal experience here when I say that time and patience are always on your side. The faster you try to make things happen, the slower time crawls on you, and when you take things slow; then more good things will happen.

How do I know these things?

Well, as a fellow gamer/anime/manga/film nerd... I know these things, because I've been engaged to my fiance for 4 months as of two days ago, and will be married in less than a year; and wouldn't you know it, can you believe it; she's just as much of an anime and manga and video gamer nerd as I am.

I have faith in you to be the best person you can be, and I have confidence that you can do more than just find a girl. If you are willing to work harder at making her happy--harder than finding all the volumes of an out of print manga--then you will be just fine.

47 comments:

  1. I personally am an otaku girl down in Colorado, and I've yet to ever meet another otaku, let alone an otaku boy. I'd love to meet someone else I could talk with, and someone who would "understand" but that's just hard isn't it? :)

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    1. Yer it;s hard being a anime/manga fan sometimes, i would love to meet
      a girl who was into the same things as me...but when you live in Austrailia
      pretty much no one likes animea...thats not counting my korean friends.
      any cute otaku girls want to come to Aus for a holiday:P

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    2. Whoa, no otaku girls in Australia? There's one right here, haha. :P Go to them anime/manga conventions, man! Supanova, SMASH!, Animania, there are actually a lot of us, y'know. :)

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  2. no it's not take a look around you theres bound to be one guy out there hell i would help you acomplish this dream of yours theres an otakuthon at montreal this august 11 to the 13 come here and i'll help u (ps. i already have a girlfriend)

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  3. i have never met a fellow otaku yet, but i hope to finally meet someone i can talk to about anime. all the kids at school shun me because im different. well, frankly i dont give a damn! i am who am, so deal with it. anime is my life and love!
    -jenne from michigan

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    1. yeah I get that to... Maybe not as bad since people here either don't care or have no idea what anime is >.< but there are always those few who hate anybody who is different. I love my anime and I live in Michigan as well, Just saying! :P

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  4. :\ sucks being the one of the few otaku in toledo, ohio... oh well. i dont look for relationships anyways. but at least i could have someone to hang with and discuss anime and stuff. i love my anime. i dont have any physical manga/anime. but i know most of my stuff. being poor sucks too. but having fun with it is what counts.

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    1. That's weird. I'm also from Toledo and have met and been friends with many an otaku at both the high and collegiate levels. Most schools have anime, video game, or Japanese language that they gravitate towards. I'm poor myself and I've noticed that most otaku range from having very modest beginnings to middle class. I wonder if rich otaku actually exist.

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  5. funny im a hardcore otaku girl and lesbian and in a realtionship with another hardcore otaku girl. I noticed that too, otaku girls are usually lesbian. not saying every single one of them is, but a handful at least are gay.

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    1. Or at least Bi, in my experience.

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  6. I have been a Otaku since I was 13 years old I am currently 32 years old and all the Otaku girls I meet at conventions are either to young and if they're my age they are already taken :)
    and I get spammed to hell on Craiglist when I put single Otaku guy lol, by porn spammers and get offers from prostitutes lol Fanimecon 2012 is comming soon woohoo :)

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  7. I liked the topic, although much to generalize the term "where to find otaku girls," arriving here across this question does not mean I'm an idiot masturbating looking for a plastic doll, in fact, otaku girls are the ones in my point of view that do not value a playboy with a penis of one meter and a car of the year. Women are women, but there are still those who use their brains ...the girls otaku.

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  8. 22 yr old male from PA signing in! Otaku AND gamer, as if one or the other wasn't bad enough huh? Combine that with a part-time lurker, and you've got one recipe for disaster...although I wa lucky that my first GF WAS into the same shit I am, but that was eons ago, and now, even though it'd be great to get there again, simply finding ANYONE to even enjoy the things I do with is hard, idk if it's because people up here are closet otakus, or there just aren't many around....if anyone wants to talk or somethin, just reply to this comment....but we'll see how things go from here

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  9. :/ I stumbled apon this and have something to say.
    everything in this article is CORRECT :)
    And also I feel bad because Indianapolis has otaku girls to spare (from my experience).... actually it's hard to find otaku guys :/
    It's just that most of the otakus in indy usually slowly fade out and lose interest... it's too sad... :(

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  10. I'm overwhelmed at the amount of responses that this article has received. To be honest, when I wrote it, I was hesitant to do so, because I didn't want tot make any sort of waves within the community, or put any undue burden on the readers that would happen across this.

    I've had numerous encounters with fans, otaku, gamer nerds, that have been in the boat that we have all found ourselves in, and it's hard to find happiness, love, romance with someone out there, let alone find someone that shares the same sorts of interests as we do.

    It is possible for otaku to find a relationship with a non-otaku, and that requires a huge amount of trust, faith, and acceptance on behalf of the non-otaku.

    We can't be pushy about our fandom, our likes, our fantasies, or our anime crushes. We have to be as willing to be complacent as much as we expect our other person to be understanding and accepting.

    Looking for otaku girls/guys is a challenge. We have different likes and dislikes, we have different tastes in VAs, or hate English Dubs altogether. We find that once we get right down to it, we are two totally different people under the surface of the name "Otaku".

    But that's the way it's supposed to be.

    I still stand behind everything that I've written in the article; that time and patience are the keys to finding the better things in live, romance, and a successful meaningful future.

    One last thing I'd like to add, is that; two people are not their fandoms.

    As much as you would like to date based on the fact that each of you are nerds, is petty, and base. My advice, is to share your common interests, but to not let that define yourselves toward the other.

    Be yourselves, not your favorite anime character, not your favorite anime, not your favorite game. Put your fandom on the shelf when you are with each other, and try to be as positive about life as possible.

    No one is interested in solving your life's problems. Or counseling you on family issues. They may have their own; just work on the best parts of yourselves, and be patient.

    Thanks again for all the comments, I enjoy hearing feedback, and knowing that something that I shared has had such responses.

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  11. I live in the tiniest town ever, and everyone here is a complete a**hole. I go to school in the next town over and everyone there teases me because I have a love for anime/manga and Japanese girls, and the most amazing thing happened, I got an exchange student from Japan and her name's Rino and she loves all the manga I'm into like Gantz, hellsing and other violent titles. The thing is she leaves in two days and I haven't had that much fun ever. I speak quite fluent Japanese and it's great to spend time with and talk to an amazingly cute girl who enjoys something as much as you do.
    And hopefully in the future I can find someone as amazing as her. :)

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  12. "As long as you--an otaku male--continue to objectify and classify the opposite sex, then you fail before you even start." that one hit hard. i do it so subconsciously. these advices could only come from one of our own. well written. thanks a lot for posting.

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  13. Finally, an article that explains to all the hormone stricken males that if you're not gonna try for gold don't try at all. If you don't want a meaningful relationship then you might as well not try to have a relationship.

    Honestly, I just typed in otaku, because my GF called me one, and found this and I'm glad I did. So as a proud member of a 6 month strong otaku-couple I completely stand behind this article.

    Tristan from WA

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  14. >Be an otaku
    >Always disliked social interaction
    >Only want a girlfriend that accept that I'm an otaku
    >Bitchesandwhores.jpg
    >Not looking for just blatant sex or things like that, want just a meaningful relationship
    All I get is bullshit. Bullshit Bullshit Bullshit. Answer-me-that, Blogger-san.

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  15. I am an otaku guy, i would love for a girl to treat me to my otaku fantasies of course, i mean who wouldnt want to find a mate to meet their fetishes? But im not a moron either. I know girls are human, and I treat them with the highest respect possible; and believe it or not, im only 16 xD

    I guess in the anime world, I resemble Tamaki Suoh from Ouran when it comes down to politeness and overall attitude[including the eccentric once in awhile]. Ive even managed to help a few guys understand what a 'women' really is and how most wish to be courted or talked to. Although, the 'princely' approach does not always appeal to all girls as their are so many different type, or its better to say that all girls are generally different. Sadly, for my overall attitude, its either dashing prince, or melancholic downer.

    I live in the small, otherwise unknown, city of Elkhart, IN. I know a few anime fans, but their not really fit to call otaku or anything close really. So finding a suitable women is practically impossible. Another problem bring, Ive been told im what plenty of girls want, but their not what i need. [i.e. an otaku]. I digress.

    Perhaps someday ill meet someone who enjoys romantic/dramas or ecchi/comedies or something with some action, hopefully with some unique qualities but common interests.

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    1. You sound like a great guy, I wish you the best of luck on your journey.

      I have a few principles similar to yours, I'm a horny 14 Yo boy and I can't deny it. I also try my best to respect girls as I would my male friends. Here's the problem, I'm anti-social and have turrets, because of this I am often rude/annoying without intending to be. I often go on tangents and unnecessary rants.

      Honestly, I can't see me getting into any sort of relationship. I'm a very generous good natured guy, but I screw up by accident to often for a relationship...

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    2. I am 15 and love shoujo manga and anime as well and k-pop and Asia dramas, I am kind of quiet and love to listen. contact me at maineska2@comcast.net if you want to talk and is a girl or preferably guy 13-18

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  16. WAHAHAHA! Sorry I stopped reading around the part where you say Otaku girls are absolutely nothing like the girls in mangas. some are. some are exactly like them, some only exhibit 1 or 2 characteristics. point is, they're out there.
    best not to make sweeping, broad generalizations like that.
    Best place to meet an otaku girl; an anime convention.

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  17. Im an Otaku girl and ive never ever bet an Otaku boy

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  18. Hi, i would like to meet otaku living in my town i live in now but this town is full of the red neck stero type. if anyone wants to chat it up look me up on facebook. Jake Neumann Vanderhoof B.C Canada.

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    1. Kyle Ingram Cleveland, TNOctober 22, 2012 at 2:52 AM

      I know what you mean and it is even worse when you live in the bible belt. Everyone has to be a closet something or another cause most of the people believe if the churches find out your gonna go to hell or wherever depending on your faith. I would love to find a woman who would share my interests, I know we would have differing interests as well but that's part of the journey. I don't mind traveling or anything like that as long as it's for an actual relationship not just friends as that can change for the worse with a single misunderstanding.

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  19. I'm a 17 (nearly 18) year old guy heading to college soon who is an otaku, gamer, and Christian... Well, all I'm gonna say is that it complicates the hell out of an already complex situation. It's already hard enough to find a non-Christian whom is even just one or the other. I have only met two girls that like video games (one Christian, one non-Christian) and two that like anime (one Christian, one non-Christian as well). Also, for the record, I am not being motivated by a "fire in my loins", either (or expect a girl to be some kind of generic anime chick, say stuff like onii-chan to me, ect.). I am patient, however, for true love cannot be rushed (though, alas, not all are destined for it). On the bright side, being single does yield some delightful perks...

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  20. I am into shoujo manga and anime as well as Asian dramas, I am white with long brown hair, a teen looking for a teen, contact me at maineska2@comcast.net if want to talk.

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  21. Oh and I am a girl

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  22. I am 20 years old, and love anime and manga, i've never had the opportunity to date a fellow otaku though? Then again i live in southern louisiana AKA "The deep south" most of my...scratch that all of my girlfriends have been country women (Think the kind of girl who when you call her a nerd reacts as though you have insulted her deeply) Down here the majority of women are country and proud of their bible belt and grits and gravy heritage, so what they often wanted was the husky burly cowboy as their ideal of manliness so finding a mate is rough, but like the blog said patience is your best bet, don't get so carried away with your "Otaku ideal" when looking for someone, and if i had to describe places that ive met fellow otakus I'd have to say college, i met so many different people there and a big thing is be open and be yourself, im a loud mouth, fast talking, otaku and very vocal in my passions, and that in and of itself has helped me meet many different people! and yes you will have a few bad moments of being yourself especially if you meet large, aggressive men who enjoy picking on people different(just because i live in the middle of Country Strong America don't feel sorry, I'm an otaku, 5'7 skin color "Gothic White" sounds rough... but also a black belt/martial arts instructor Ha! high school good times) just be yourself you'll be surprised who will like you for you.
    Don't hide your passions due to fear of rejection, yet don't let passion be your obsession. Share your knowledge with those around you, you'd be surprised how often you'll find out someone you see daily is an otaku (Half of my students most of them female are otakus, they lit up the day i brought it up and they haven't stopped talking since!! so i am teaching a generation of otakus Taekwondo... yup my plans for world domination are underway) Have fun with your life,find humor in yourself and the world around you, the biggest ability you can have is to make others laugh. Smile and have a great day!

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  23. All hail otaku, eh.
    only 1 problem no life with the other gender(Hideoshi)

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  24. ...Bullshit. I, yes, have urges, but unlike you think all of us are, I actually want a girl who both appreciates me and my hobby, especially considering I am a manga artist. It is human nature to have sex appeal, and not everyone wants to be called "big brother" by a girl they date. I find it disturbing. Besides, not everyon wants to have a bang. I'd be satisfied with just a cuddle, but all chances are shattered by both my region and people like you who think all anime and manga fans and gamers such as myself are like that. YOU just classed US, ya damn hypocrit. Ya know what? I want a girlfriend so I can have a person to protect, have fun at cons with, play games with, and a cute girl to draw beside me in my manga. Maybe I am taking this too seriously, but the sheer amount of times I have considered suicide due to absolute feelings of being unwanted makes this article piss me off. I don't give two shits about sex compared to just a hug. Even my best friends know that if I act perverted around them, I mean it as a joke about the stereotypical anime perv archtype. This article is awful, insulting all readers from the start. Word of advice: don't be a prick.

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    1. Sir, you've said it all ..

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  25. i love anime and im looking for a nice girl more like tsundere and no yandere girls please. im a shy quiet guy that is nervous to show my emotions

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  26. if you want to contact me let me know i'll be here on weekends

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  27. There are many popular social sites out there that you can probably meet people on like facebook but let's face it, they are not a dating site and there is a big difference between social networking and dating sites. The good thing about globogirls.com is that it combines between social networks and dating websites.

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  28. Hey fuck you. I don't view girls as objects or fetishes. I'm just looking for a partner.

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  29. im just looking for a otaku girl that lives in warren county nj :3

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  30. i am an otaku guy that lives in the small town of colorado and have never met another otaku i am quiet shy and sometime unsocial but i treat women kindly and as humans and am just unlucky. All im looking for is an otaku girl that understands me and enjoys my company as much as i enjoy hers

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  31. I am an otaku guy that lives in a small town located in colorado and has never met another otaku before. I am quiet shy and sometimes unssocial but i treat women with respect and kindness and as a human just unlucky. All im looking for is an otaku girl that understands me and enjoys my company as much as i enjoy hers.

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  32. I think the world is a funny place I watch anime, play video games and on top of that I'm a high school drop out and yet despite the hate I get from people I can't help but feel sorry for them. Just because I have these interests means nothing, although people don't talk to me after I say that I like anything above they hate on me but if they got to know me they'd find out that I'm also in the armed forces, have a decent job and I can be very sociable. I am a 17 year old man if you feel like chatting about otaku stuff feel free to msg me on skype: james_quigley96

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  33. I've yet to meet an otaku girl . I am an otaku guy living in the united states Anderson S.C. I am looking for some not as a sex object as you so bluntly put but to get to know them to be friends if it leads to a deeper relationship that's great but as friends I get to see things from a female otaku perspective... Yes I am single :(

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  34. Well, as a 15 year old guy who is often mistaken for a 20 year old, i'd say i'm pretty mature and know how 'women work' but i've honestly NEVER met a otaku girl. I live in holland (or netherlands) and i get the feeling that i'm one of the only otaku's in this country. I often go to a anime/manga store in Amsterdam (the capital) and i have NEVER seen a female otaku. I'm not fat, i weigh 65 kilo i'm 175 CM and i'm NOT a ugly freak. So, you could say that either they are invisible or they don't want to show themselves around me or THEY DON'T EXIST HERE! Anyway, if there is one of you there... Give me a shout!
    M_boss@hotmail.nl

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  35. I am a male otaku who lives in the small town of Sparta, New Jersey, I am 15 turning 16 soon, and I just want to meet a fellow otaku girl who shares the same interests I do, and enjoys spending time with me. I am a very respectful gentleman, and I wish to find an otaku girl I can really relate to,

    Email: joekings84@gmail.com

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    1. I get what you mean man!!!

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  36. I'm a male 25 yr old that loves manga and video games but sadly I live in Texas ,US not the idea place to look for someone with the same interests

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